Since the beginning of 2024, I’ve been cheering myself along, jotting down thoughts in connection to my relationship with alcohol. It all started with Dry January. Some may think that sharing my personal diary is a bad idea, but sharing my truth takes courage, and vulnerability connects us, so I have no shame. We’re all human. I started the year strong, slipped into a slump, and began again. Perhaps you’ll find something here that helps you with a journey of your own.
January 1
I almost justified drinking today because it’s a holiday, but the thoughts were fleeting. Day 1 down.
January 6
I’m 54. Outside of two pregnancies, this is my fourth alcohol free month (non-consecutive) since age 18. I started Reframe (an app to help me decrease alcohol consumption) in November on the cutback plan, without success. I gave up through the holidays and planned for Dry January. This is the first time I haven’t had cravings. I’ve been praying for myself (another breakthrough for me), and it works.
January 7
About 4 months ago, I started a dance class that includes some yoga, martial arts, mindfulness, and joy. I always leave feeling strong and centered. There are only three classes per week, one on Sunday, so I was headed there this morning. But—I had a flat tire before leaving my neighborhood. Muah. Muah. ☹️
I returned home disappointed and opted for online church. It was a message on changing your life by changing your habits. (Click HERE to view.)
No matter what you believe, there is good common sense in this message. And I’ve had some divine help over the past 7 days. Peace and hope for the journey.
January 9
9 Days. My longest AF (Alcohol Free) streak since April 2020. I began mental preparation for January back in November when I gave up tracking my drinks. I started 2024 believing in the following:
- the power of intention
- do-overs
- progress over perfection
- kindness and compassion for self and others
- one day at a time
- asking God for help with all of the above
January 11
In August 2022, I was diagnosed with Stage 1 breast cancer found through a routine mammogram. I was lucky we found it early, and it’s gone now (or so I thought on January 11).
Anyway, that’s when I became aware of the CDC’s (Centers for Disease Control and Prevention) guidelines for alcohol. One drink or less in a day for women. Two for men. “Ridiculous,” I thought.
After unsuccessfully trying to cut back, I said to myself, “Crystal, you are the ridiculous one. You only have one body. Why not treat it with tender-loving care?” It took me 54 years to realize none is easier than one (at least for me), and I became sober curious. I found myself asking God for help. And lo and behold, I feel the divine help. I’m not ready to resolve that I will never have another drink, but I intend to keep praying for myself. So far. So good. I believe in one day at a time.
January 12
I heard on the radio this morning that the end of the second week in January is called Quitter Day. Statistically more people give up their goals today. If you remain alcohol free (or persist with any goal), you are officially among the elite.
January 13
Checked into a hotel for a Girls Weekend with friends. I was offered complimentary champagne or water, and I chose water.
January 15
“The power of intention is so doubt-deficient that when you’re connected to it you see what you’d like to have as already being present.”
Dr. Wayne Dyer
January 17
This past weekend, my lifelong friend Pamela was visiting from out of town. We attended Lakewood Church on Sunday.
Joel Osteen said, “Write your vision. Back it up with scripture.”
So here it goes:
I live a sober life that brings me clarity, health, peace, hope, joy, and love.
“‘For I know the plans I have for you,’ declares the LORD, ‘plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.’”
Jeremiah 29:11
Bring it, Day 17.
January 19
Weirdly I haven’t had many cravings. But—it’s Friday, so close to 5, and my husband has a drink in hand. 😳 I grabbed a LaCroix and squeezed a lime. It’s quite refreshing. 0 calories. 0 alcohol.
January 21
This morning I’m thankful for reframed perspectives, 3-weeks AF, and for the first time ever, this budding idea of a permanent change to my relationship with alcohol.
January 24
I attended a meeting on the app today and heard this:
“Progress over punishment.”
January 26
“Today is a gift and miracles are manifesting.” (Click HERE for more affirmations.)
January 29
This morning I’m reading The Untethered Soul (spiritual nonfiction) by Michael A. Singer. He says the mind is “very melodramatic (😂) … Just decide that no matter what the mind says, you aren’t getting involved.”
January 30
I always gain weight through the holidays. I. Just. Do.
But—so many of those calories are from drinking. I’m officially down 8 pounds and ready for Day 31. Then Day 32.
February 3
My dance class moved to a new bigger studio in January with many spaces and options. I bought a pass for unlimited classes in February. Today’s attempt: aerial conditioning.
It. Was. Hard.
The students and teacher were all 20-30 years younger than me. But I hung in there. Pun intended.
February 8
“The genius thing we did was, we didn’t give up.”
Jay Z
February 9
Do you know what the best exercise is?
Wait for it…
The one you will do.
This morning on my way home from my 8th dance class in 8 days, I was thinking back to 2019 when I was going to Boxing and Kickboxing classes. Kody wanted us to do this “together.” Guess who went most often. 🙋♀️ I shaped up but not joyfully. Wrapping my fists and wearing gloves was not my journey, and I’m thankful to find my own path. 40 days sober.
February 10
My dad says this about cigarettes, but it applies here:
“I was really good at quitting. I quit all the time.”
Every quit—even after a slip—strengthens those neural pathways. Day 41 alcohol free and working on me.
February 11
I realize life will always have ups and downs, but I’ve come to a place where whatever happens, it will be okay.
I’ve heard a Kristin Neff meditation twice now on Reframe where she encourages us to talk to ourselves like this:
This is hard right now,
but everyone goes through hard things.
May I be happy and well and kind to myself.
February 19
Celebrating Day 50! Woot Woot! 👏🏻
February 26
When 2024 started, I planned on Dry January, which morphed into AF February. March is still a maybe. As for Day 57, I will not drink with you.
The days add up. One at a time.
March 17
While a bit disappointed in my March non-drinking statistics, my reframed thought is…
I’m super excited to have 64 dry days in 2024. That. Is. progress.
April 5
2024 was off to the best start. 60 days AF until March 1. Then I struggled. Two vacations and a surgery in one month is atypical. Starting again. 67 days alcohol free today.
April 8
70 AF days out of 99 in 2024. That’s statistically better than any other year this century.
Progress.
One. Day. At. A. Time.
April 11
7 sober days in a row and more in April than all of March.
Celebrating the milestones. Warrior-ing on.
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My Take-Aways
I had some recent blood work. In comparison to previous labs, the tests show marked improvement, so there’s that.
In my down time and 73 extra days of clarity, I’ve contemplated self-kindness and concluded that it’s a combination of nurturing my body, mind, and spirit.
I’ve contemplated what it means to nurture the body and concluded it’s about exercise, nutrition, and hydration.
I’ve contemplated what it means to nurture the mind and concluded that it’s about surrounding myself with what lifts me up—people and podcasts, reading and music, sunshine and the great outdoors. It’s about living in the moment without dwelling on the past or worrying about the future. It’s about letting go of judgments, thoughts, and emotions that do not serve me.
I’ve contemplated what it means to nurture the spirit and concluded that it’s about spending time with God, meditating in gratitude, and loving and forgiving myself and others.
I’m on a journey to inner peace, healing, and wellbeing, advancing confidently in the direction of my dreams.
Thank you for reading and sharing my experience. I send extra love.