Just today, a part of my brain said, “It’s January 12. You are behind schedule.” Emphasis on you and behind.
I said, “Who’s schedule?”
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When the new year commenced, I didn’t make a single promise. Not one. That’s unusual for me.
For the last number of years, I’ve had a reading goal on Goodreads. A Word of the Year. Various other resolutions and goals. Despite the fact I didn’t set any blogging goals last year, at some point, I settled into a once-a-week post.
This year. I’m too tired for resolutions, but we are twelve days in. I reserve the right to change my mind. Maybe February will be my month. I am open to the possibility of miracles. I’ve resolved to be kind to myself.
When my inner dialogue started harassing me about writing a little something for the blog, I took offense. I don’t like to be told what to do. Even by myself.
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I wrote the post anyway. Then remembered why.

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Thank you, Jane. I feel that.
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“I’ve resolved to be kind to myself.” Now there’s a resolution I can get behind. I think you’re onto something. I love it! Ha, ha. 😎
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Yes! So I do have a resolution after all!!
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Love this! I think sometimes we are too hard on ourselves. I am glad you are trying to give yourself grace! 💜
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Sometimes? I tend to do it without even realizing. Maybe this is my year. 💖
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best to rest
and enjoy
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I’ve gotten really good at resting. 🤍
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Hey trhere world famous teacher, I’m a ruuner and sometimes the most important day of training is a rest day. the same can be true of writers Just make sure your rest day is a red clown nose super doddle day. Jerry
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Wow, Jerry! You know how to make a girl feel special. Thank you. It’s the weekend, and I’m taking your advice.
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The best way to keep a goal is when you start it naturally…whether it be January 1, February 15 or September 30…
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I agree. It can’t be rushed or forced. ❤️
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“I am open to the possibility of miracles.” I love that!
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And I believe in the power of words! 💖
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You’re not alone in not setting goals for the New Year. What can be better than resolving to be kind to oneself?
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You’re right, Rosaliene, and I appreciate your perspective! 🤍
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I felt pressure to have made certain personal decisions by January 1. It came and went, and I still didn’t have anything firmed down. Like you, I took the pressure off and over the last 12 days, things have developed all by themselves–a word, a devotional plan. Or, in the case of one thing I was trying to work out, I let the idea go. After all, I am retired. I really don’t need to start a daily house cleaning schedule. We are not messy, and I can recognize when something is past its “due date.” In your case, you have a tough year ahead. Health issues that make you tired. Trying to keep up with a bunch of active teenagers, some ready to learn, others not so much. Your family. Do give yourself grace; rest when you need to. Let some things go. Usually if they are important they will be around when you are ready to deal with them. God bless you in this new year.
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Linda, you get me. Your response touched my heart. Thank you!
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Thank you for sharing!!.. taking time to rest is a part of the process, gives you time to browse your book of memories, gather more memories with another and smell the roses.. and perhaps follow Rose Milligans advice;
Dust if you must, but wouldn’t it be better
to paint a picture, or write a letter,
bake a cake, or plant a seed.
Ponder the difference between want and need.
Dust if you must, but there is not much time,
with rivers to swim and mountains to climb!
Music to hear, and books to read,
friends to cherish and life to lead.
Dust if you must, but the world’s out there
with the sun in your eyes, the wind in your hair,
a flutter of snow, a shower of rain,
this day will not come round again.
Dust if you must, but bear in mind,
old age will come and it’s not kind.
And when you go, and go you must,
you, yourself, will make more dust!
(Rose Milligan)
And above all “Don’t be pushed around by the fears in your mind. Be led by the dreams in your heart.” (Roy T. Bennett )… 🙂
Hope life is all that you wish for it to be and until we meet again..
May love and laughter light your days,
and warm your heart and home.
May good and faithful friends be yours,
wherever you may roam.
May peace and plenty bless your world
with joy that long endures.
May all life’s passing seasons
bring the best to you and yours!
(Irish Saying)
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I love that Roy T. Bennett quote. Thanks for the kindness, Larry!
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I hear ‘ya, mind is chaotic right now too. I’m beginning to think that I may declare March 1st as the beginning of my own personal 2023.
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Or April! No pressure. 🤍
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Speaking of the calendar’s inflated self-importance, how’d I manage to miss January 12 by three whole days?
It’s only natural, as we lavish a single day (January 1) with undue significance, most feel a need at that time to make fresh promises. Perhaps idealists and dreamers even more so than others.
Why, Crystal? Isn’t improvement constant? Thus, resolution is dynamic, ebbing and flowing as events do. Our determination powers it forward – around, above and beyond life’s events. That’s the crucial factor, not some space on the calendar.
Besides, Crystal, from your single promise – kindness – all other progress grows.
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Blogs do work better on a schedule. The 12th didn’t align, nor did the time of day. Still, to post or not to post? A post is progress. And look at all the kindness that appeared in response, including yours. Thank you, Keith! Have a great week!
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From time to time, we all need to have a little talk with ourselves. We are often our harshest critic and only 12 days in, we need to resist the need for sudden major course corrections, when perhaps just a slight adjustment in direction will do the trick. Happy Monday Crystal. Allan
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This is good advice, Allan. Yes, from time to time we need to have the types of conversations with ourselves like we would have with other people. Kind ones.
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Brains do have a way of getting uppity. They don’t listen much either. 🤔
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Right? How to Train Your Brain. That would be a great post.
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If I ever figure it out, maybe I’ll write it. 😉
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I am the same way. I do not like being told what to do. And I too did not make any resolutions. Loved your post.
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Maybe February or March or 2024. Thank you, Winds of Change. You get me.
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Yes!! Maybe and yes, I do 😊 you are welcome. Enjoy your night.
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I love your breezy attitude, Crystal. I think you’re more likely to catch the wind of the Spirit under your wings that way! Every now and then I remember what Jesus told Mary of Bethany after she anointed him with nard–to much criticism (Mark 14). Jesus said, “She did what she could.” After a busy day of taking care of others with items still left on the to-do-list, it’s comforting to remember: “I did what I could,” and rest in that.
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I know that’s right! Do what you feel on your own schedule or it becomes a chore!
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Here’s to doing more of the things we love!
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I have an inner bitch. I try to ignore her but she’s radically persistent. What can you do? Write! Hugs, C
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Writing does a body good. But I’m ready to call a truce with myself. 🤍
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You’ll know when you’re ready to set any goals for yourself … mine was about a week before Christmas. I knew what I wanted. Since then I’ve been taking some time to figure out how to get there. Baby steps; small achievable objectives to focus on rather than massive overwhelming goals.
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Hi Brenda! I know you’re right. Sometimes we all need reminders. Thank you!
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I’m in the opposite boat this year! In years past I haven’t made resolutions but this year I have. Mostly to do with professional stuff… Like my cut flower business. I’m so excited for this adventure
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Good luck with your flowers! I can’t wait to read about this!
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By the way… I hope you enjoy breaking all the rules this year and enjoy the adventure of freedom
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Thank you, LaShelle. Come to think of it, I’m continuing work on my mindset. I like the way you’ve reframed this as a rule-breaking adventure of freedom. That’s lovely.
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I’m glad you liked it! I hope you break ALL the rules ☺️
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Nice
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Nice post Crystal and please don’t be too hard on yourself😍. Take it step by step goals are there and will not disappear. Be patient ♥😊
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Hello Mthobisi and thank you! I’m working on this. It’s a process.
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I’ve never been one to set resolutions. Life has taught me some invaluable lessons about flexibility and patience. Crystal, may you continue to be blessed these fascinating 30 seconds.
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Hi Big Sky! I think it’s fascinating to hear different perspectives. Thank you for yours.
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God is our answer! Faith is the platform! Best blessed wishes always.
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So true! Thank you for the warmest wishes!
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