Last week started with a recurring thought from Maya Angelou’s mother. She was always…

I want to be like that. Unfazed by whatever happens.
Another thought came from the Book of Proverbs…

I want to be like that. Strong and Dignified. Fearless and Joyful.
Meanwhile, I’ll name it and claim it.
When Saturday rolled around, I mindlessly scrolled Facebook when a book caught my eye:

The post said, “Found this book in our move. Everyone could use a little more positive in their life! Ready to apply this with my family, friends, and students! If you’ve read this, what was your biggest take away?”
I read the book about five years ago and remembered the part about energy vampires. I pulled the book from my shelf and flipped to that chapter. These words jumped off the page: “If you want to be successful you have to be very careful about who is on your bus. After all there are people who increase your energy and there are people who drain your energy…Your job is to do your best to eliminate any negativity on your bus and this includes negative people.” Noted.
Charles Dickens once wrote: “It was the best of times, it was the worst of times.” What a paradox! Our times can be both the best and the worst. Let’s choose our focus.
Alexandre Dumas once wrote: “Life is a storm, my young friend. You will bask in the sunlight one moment, be shattered on the rocks the next. What makes you a man is what you do when that storm comes.” The storms of life happen—bad weather, catastrophes, flat tires, politics, rude people, illness, death—and when storms happen, I protect my energy.
I seek out good. I redirect my thoughts. I choose faith and gratitude, peace and hope.
There’s energetic power in the thoughts we carry. And energy, good or bad, travels. It transfers into our cells and to our loved ones. I don’t know about you, but my molecular make-up, my loved ones, too, could use some good energy. So, today I’m thinking good thoughts—for you and me—strong, dignified, fearless, joyful thoughts. Pass it on.
“Energy Vampires.” I must cooperate as a coworker with one every day. “Protect your energy.” Crystal, I prayed, literally 30 minutes ago, “God, how do I keep
working with a toxic person without becoming toxic myself? Now I know.
I love, love Maya Angelou. I’m not one of these Christian’s who thinks he can’t learn something from someone who isn’t (wasn’t) 100% Christian. Anyway, Girl Power! That’s what I’m saying. God Bless.
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Easier said than done…my word for this year is grace. Grace for myself. Grace for others. It’s a practice. 💪🏻
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I’m not sure I have a word this year, it’s more like a phrase: “Thinking is not the same as believing.” I can choose to reject or redirect unhelpful thoughts.
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Yes!
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Wishing you many positive, energy-enhancing people in your life, Crystal!
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Thank you! Thank you! Thank you, Priscilla! I wish you the same.
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Faith, gratitude, peace and hope. What a wonderful wish! I agree too that there’s power in our thoughts. Thanks for sharing.
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Sometimes I feel like I’m repeating myself. I’m happy this one resonates. Thanks for visiting, Brian!
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I feel that way often too. I had a piece recently that I debated posting. I worried that the message was redundant. Of course, several readers commented on how different and helpful it was. Instead, I’ve tried to post what I’m thinking, focus on being authentic, and let the other stuff go! Anyway, thanks for sharing!
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This post was definitely about my thoughts. It’s nice to know people relate to both the behind-the-scenes conflict and the final product. Thanks again, Brian!
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Such a powerful post. Thank you for sharing. I needed this boost. 🦋
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Your kind words give me a boost, too. Thank you, Bridget!
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Hey there Crystal, Great essay. Shakespeare said, “Nothing is good or bad but thinking makes it so.’ The Bible says in Romans 8:28 “All things work together for good…” and as my Uncle Frank used to say, “Even a kick in the ass can be a step forward.” All the best. jerry
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Hi Jerry! I love that Shakespeare quote, and I hear my mother’s voice when I read Romans 8:28. Thank you for that and for the laugh!
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Crystal, you ARE like this: strong, dignified, fearless, and joyful. These characteristics are present in virtually every one of your posts. And you inspire those of us who read your posts to be more like that. 💕
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Thank you, Jane! Your response made me a little misty-eyed. I have good advice, but I don’t always take it. I’m a work-in-progress, and it sounds like I’m, well, making progress. I appreciate you for taking time to inspire me!
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We’re all works in progress. You have chosen a fine path and you’re following it admirably! 😊
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A lovely and powerful reminder that it matters how we respond to things and that can zap us of our energy or we can choose to protect it.
Faith, gratitude, peace, and hope – walk in full measure of all of these Crystal.
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Hi Manu! Your response is equally lovely, powerful, and appreciated. Thank you, my friend!
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Being able to direct your thoughts to the positive is a great reminder. I believe gratitude is the key to good energy.
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And I understand times when redirecting thoughts is not easy and how those times sometimes stretch out longer than we want. I like what Rilke says, too:
“Let everything happen to you: beauty and terror.
Just keep going. No feeling is final.”
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Such a lovely and powerful post!
Faith, gratitude, peace and hope: that’s a wonderful wish!
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Hello, Luisa! My blog was born of those circumstances, a choice of faith and gratitude, a consequence of peace and hope, thoughts that continue to carry me. May this energy spread beyond you and me. ❤️
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What a wonderful purpose!
… and what a valuable person you are!
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😊❤️
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Accepted and will pass it along too.🤗❤️😊
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A grassroots movement. Thank you, Dwight.
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Sounds awfully familiar! I think someone (you?) recommended the “bus book” before, because I did read it and took heed. Then I started purging a few toxic friends from my own bus, and became calmer.
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I’m happy you stumbled upon the recommendation, Jo. Peace of mind is priceless!
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Hi, Crystal. Many sparkling quotes, all of which resonate. The best of them arrives near the end, though, and it succeeds the others. In it, author and teacher Crystal Byers advises us “(E)nergy, good or bad, travels.”
Including much of what you cited, of course. Those wordsmiths crafted the introduction and the forward, yet the author herself fills the pages after and inspires them with her own quote-worthy moments and thoughts.
To “author” and “teacher” add “bonne vivante.” Not someone who savors a life of indulgence, but a person who indulges in a savory life. She makes the most of each moment, despite current circumstances. Energy enjoyed now or built for later.
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Bonne vivante. I’ll take it. Thank you, Keith, for giving me some words to savor! ❤️
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Love your inspirational post, Crystal, and thanks for the reminder about protecting my energy 🙂 My sons no longer come to me for advice, but it is my hope that some of my good energy helps to carry them through their day.
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Funny how sometimes I’m trying to inspire myself, and then responses like yours give me some extra good energy. I have no doubt your sons feel it, too. Thank you, Rosaliene!
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Wonderful posts and such great quotes. Anyone out there without a toxic person in your life? Consider yourself blessed. For the rest of us, this is a great perspective.
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Thank you, Linda! Hope you have a great day!
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You’re the second blogger I’ve read today that made mention of people who take your energy. I’ve dealt with many energy vampires, but maybe am the better for it? I’ve honed my strength, dignity, and the ability to laugh.
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Excellent perspective! Way to hone the good stuff, Ally!
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Lovely post full of positivity and great thoughts. I personally resonate with the quote of Charles Dickens- I felt some of my best and worst memories lie in the same period.
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Charles Dickens is genius. I feel the same way. Thanks for visiting, AB!
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Well, It becomes AB CD if you put Charles Dickens after my name..actually its the first time any one called me AB so let this poor joke pass…😅
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I love that you’re forever seeking to find the beauty in things and what a strong quote about making sure you know who’s on your bus! That’s unbelievably true
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Thanks, LaShelle! I can definitely look around and find some bad to talk about. On the other hand, I would prefer to focus on what’s right in the world and save my own peace.
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Good plan!
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Thinking positive thoughts has always been helpful each time I feel overwhelmed by some unhealthy thoughts.
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Definitely! There are times when I feel stuck in the overwhelm. That’s when I protect my energy most.
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Amen
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Thank you for sharing your thoughts and positive energy!!.. “The only thing that stands between you and your dream is the will to try and the belief that it is actually possible.” (Joel Brown).. 🙂
Until we meet again..
May your day be touched
by a bit of Irish luck,
Brightened by a song
in your heart,
And warmed by the smiles
of people you love.
(Irish Saying)
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Hi Larry! So true about dreams, the will to try, and belief. And a lovely wish! May your days be brightened in the same ways.
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Absolutely love the quotes on your page they are always trying to highlight the positive side to things!
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Thank you! I like to collect positivity. You never know when it might come in handy.
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This is so strange, not the post, but the power of our thoughts. I was just listening to a Ted Talk by Caroline Myss on caring for the words we continually use to describe ourselves and our value. She said our health depends on the our vocabulary! It was sort of mind blowing and you’ve picked up on the vibe and carried the message forward. Here’s to kind and healthy selftalk! Hugs, C
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I’m going to have to look her up. I read The Clarity Cleanse last summer by Dr. Habib Sadeghi with the same idea. And six years or so ago, I saw a couple of videos (like these) I’ll never forget.
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The rice experiment would be fun with your visiting littles. To kind and healthy self-talk! ❤️
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Beautiful post!
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Thank you!
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Nice and powerful post💜😊🙏
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Thank you for visiting!
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You’re most welcome 😊💜🙏
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I hope you dont mind but I reposted on FB. It was just good stuff😉
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Nice! Happy you liked it. Thank you!
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Crystal, your reflections are a blessing to read. No matter where our life journey is at, we will benefit from receiving and sharing positive energy with others.
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Thank you, Richard! A little extra good energy never hurt anyone❣️
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when search for goodnesss we will find it! Proverbs is my favorite book of the Bible. so much to unpack and reflect upon.
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I should spend some extra time there! Thanks for sharing, Belladonna!
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You’re so welcome!!!
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Aww, I love your blog’s vibe.😊
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I appreciate you for visiting. 🤍
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