Once a child bride, I married a man child. During the first year or so of holy matrimony, we partied like it was 1999. But it was 1989. Then suddenly, we had a toddler. Somebody had to grow up. With the help of my mother, I packed my things, loaded Drew into his car seat, and left the Rocky Mountains and my husband in my rearview mirror.
During the 700-mile, cross-country trek from Denver to Tulsa, I prayed to God. I wanted to do the right thing, and I said, “Send me a sign. Amen.”
In the weeks that followed, I found an apartment and a church. I enrolled in community college and started summer classes. Meanwhile, Kody called. He missed me and Drew. He asked if he could visit.
I said, “Yes.”
All it took was one visit, watching Bambi as a family, a failed spermicidal sponge, and I had my sign. I called Kody long distance when I missed my period. “I’m pregnant,” I said.
From there, we committed to a new beginning. Kody moved in and found a job. Together we enrolled in eighteen hours each that fall. In December, we moved back to Norman to continue school at the university. By then I was almost seven months pregnant. I had just turned twenty-two.
I suppose I lifted one box too many. Mother’s guilt.
I was taking a bath one day in our new home. 134 1/2 S. Reed. A bungalow with a dirt driveway on the half acre behind another bungalow. As I toweled off, water continued to drip down the insides of my thighs.
My water. Broken. Seven-and-a-half weeks early. At the hospital, I learned my baby was breach. They transported me by ambulance to the university hospital in Oklahoma City with the neo-natal unit. The surgeon performing the emergency C-section was Dr. Payne.
And that’s how Lauren Elizabeth entered the world. January 11, 1992, at 12:22 am, 4 lbs. 11 ½ oz. Too little to cry. It’s not a pretty story, but she was a gorgeous tiny bundle of love despite the tubes in her nose. She had ten perfect fingers and ten perfect toes. And she fought for life from her first breath. She was destined to be just fine and come home just one week later.
And today my beautiful miracle baby celebrates 30 years and other miracles along the way, God’s presence and new beginnings of her own. Destined for her best decade yet.






As someone who’s pregnant for the first time now, this really touched me. Happy birthday to your miracle baby!
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Aww! Thank you, Jelena. This seems like a lifetime ago. At the same time, it has all sped by.
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Powerful story and lovely pictures
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Thank you, Derrick. I appreciate your visit.
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Happy Birthday to your beautiful daughter. As you said may this be her best decade yet. Beautiful pics Crystal and thank you for sharing this part of your story.
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I appreciate the extra kind wishes for her. Thank you, Manu!
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Very engaging life story. All the best wishes to your daughter. God bless!❤
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I’m forwarding your good energy on. Thank you, Mousumi!
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Love the soccer picture – we have so many like it in our kitchen 🙂
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I love that one, too. She was quite a soccer player, and those were fun days. Thanks for reading, Jonathan.
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Happy Birthday. Wonderfrul story. All thge best. Jerry
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Hey there, Jerry! Much appreciated and all the best to you.
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Happy birthday to your sweet daughter! You went to OU? So did I! Small world!
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Boomer! Thank you, Priscilla. It is a small world!
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A wonderful story and great photos. Happy Birthday to your daughter.
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Thanks, Ally. Life is a roller coaster, ups and downs, exhilaration and terror, but all good in the end.
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They grow up so quickly Crystal and yet it seems only a short time ago when you first met. Quite the miracle, to be sure. Allan
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I definitely believe in miracles! Thanks for visiting, Allan!
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Happy birthday to Lauren! She has a bright road ahead of her.
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Thank you, Neil. She does! I was just getting started at 30.
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Miracles still happen. Have a great birthday party.
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Yes! Miracles keep me going. I believe! Thank you, Christine.
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So sweet! Happy Birthday to your amazing and lovely daughter! ❤️
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Thank you so much, Bridget. As I racked my brain for something to write this week, I realized this was one of the most important stories of my life.
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She’s beautiful indeed! Congratulations and Happy Birthday and lovely memories and heart-felt gratefulness all rolled into one. What a miracle for all of you!
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Thank you, Jo! So thankful for the girl who will always be my baby.
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What a sweet story!! Wishing your daughter a wonderful birthday!
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Forwarding the sweet wishes. Thank you, Michelle!
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Happy Birthday Lauren!!! Hugs to you and your family 🤗
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Hi Mary Anne! Thank you. And Happy Belated Birthday #30 to Kristen! We share our birthdays. So hard to believe everybody is growing up!
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Beautiful, Crystal, in many senses. Not just Lauren, either, but even more so, your spellbinding lyricism.
Your eloquent (and elegant) recollection is the best birthday gift you could give her. Seriously. When Lauren’s 96, she’ll take out this story and will read it for, like, the 10,000th time. She’ll wipe away a tear. Even more than that, she’ll feel warm, loved and happy And hopeful. Guaranteed.
Lauren’s life speaks movingly of life’s woven tapestry. Despite occasional trifles and diversions, the continuous story is one of potential…and of joy. I agree, Lauren’s greatest triumphs are yet to be. Though none, perhaps tops her drawing you as a Mom.
Oh, and at this particular moment in the story, best wishes to the birthday girl!
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You know how to give a girl a compliment, Keith! Thank you. I used to think parenting was about having kids at home. I’ve learned it stretches into an entire life time. Sending those wishes along!
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Happy birthday beautiful Lauren! Love you Crystal!
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Thank you so much, dear friend! Love you!
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Awe, happy Birthday Lauren, what a lucky girl to have a Mom like you Crystal! Life is full of surprises, really good ones, 💕C
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Thank you for those wishes, Cheryl! Feeling lucky, too.
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Good for you and your husband for doing the work that makes a marriage work. My husband and I were married at 17, talk about immature. Our first 12 -13 years were a struggle, too much for me at times so I let him three times, went back when he promised to quit drinking. He had a massive heart attack at 26, spent a month in hospital. He said he knew laying in the bed God was trying to get his attention. He was saved at age 13 but did not mature at all. Our life took a slow turn, after 15 years of marriage we had our first child, then a second one a few years later. by then I was saved and God begin to mature in the knowledge of Him and His love for us. We became missionaries and ministered in two countries and now are Member Care reps for our missions in the states. I am so glad we did not give up every day. Again, bless you and your husband.
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Two things nobody tells you: how hard it is to be married and how hard it is to parent. Thanks for sharing your story and for leaving your blessings behind!
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Back in 1958 I was the miracle baby. Born much to soon I weighed only 3.4 ounces and long after my mom went home I stayed at the small town hospital and spinster nurses cared for me. When I left weeks later and finally went home I went home with a blanket of prayers over me I am sure.
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Wow! You were a tiny little thing, David. I love a good miracle story.
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I like this for sure ! LOL
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What an amazing and useful story from your life, it offers insights into a few different dynamics. Thank you for sharing this.
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Thanks for reading, Bryan. 🤍
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A wonderful piece, Crystal! Happy belated birthday to your daughter.
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Hi Mark and thank you! 30 seems to suit her. She’s happy, and that makes this mama’s heart happy.
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Beautiful Mom, Beautiful daughter. The ups and downs of your story kept me wondering how it would end. The pics of happy smiles say it all. Praise God for proving Romans 8:28 once again!
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I can still hear my mother saying, “All things work together for those who love God, to those who are called according to His purpose.” Thank you for that, Nancy.
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💕😭😢You’re such an amazing mom!! Happy Birthday Lauren!! 🙂 Love your dedication to your children and thank you so much for sharing your marriage struggles and so glad things worked out! 🙏
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Thanks, Jen! All I know is I tried, and I keep doing the best I can. ❤️
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This beautiful, it choked me up. Very raw and real and vulnerable. I loved it.
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Thank you. It’s a story my best friends know, and it deserved to be written. The part I left out was how my parents helped as we finished school. My dad had Kody sign a contract to complete 18 hours a semester with a 3.0 average and work 20 hours per week.
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Sounds like you have a fantastic dad!
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He’s pretty amazing.
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This is beyond beautiful! God is amazing and so faithful! Your testimony is so heartwarming. Anything is possible. That just because it looks one way doesn’t me that will be the end result. I rejoice in your miracle and all the wonderful things she has accomplished as of today. Happy birthday to your beautiful daughter. May God continue to use you, to show others how great is our God really is! Blessings!
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Thank you, Victoria, for your encouraging words and blessings! Anything is possible. ❤️
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Thank you for sharing!!.. a belated Happy Birthday for your daughter!.. glad your story had a happy ending in spite of the challenges.. as Marilyn Monroe once said; “Sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together”… 🙂
Until we meet again…
May love and laughter light your days,
and warm your heart and home.
May good and faithful friends be yours,
wherever you may roam.
May peace and plenty bless your world
with joy that long endures.
May all life’s passing seasons
bring the best to you and yours!
(Irish Saying)
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Marilyn Monroe had more wisdom than people realize. ❤️
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Awwwww what a beautiful story! She was ready for the world a little early and she probably has stayed that way. Happy Birthday to your beautiful daughter.
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Belladonna, you are so right. That girl has gone for the head start her whole life. Thank you!!
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A touching story of how you built a life from a difficult beginning. Kudos, Crystal. Beautiful family photos. ❤ Many more happy birthdays to your miracle baby!
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From your lips to God’s ears. Thank you so much, Cheryl!
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Almost made me cry – the whole story!
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I appreciate you for your note. Thank you, HBSue!
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So sweet. I hope she had a great birthday (said the woman who is catching up on reading her favorite bloggers latest posts). Cheers!
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Thanks, Rhonda! Always great to see you here! ❤️
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She’s stunning and I loved this story!
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Thank you so much!!
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Inspiring and heartfelt memories! It sounds like we are at similar places in life. Our son just turned 29 and is recently engaged. Yay! I am so excited to have a daughter-in-law and possibly a grandchild or two down the road (no pressure 🤣). We’re in California, and he’s living in Montana, (more than 1,000 miles away 😥) coaching college football. He’s doing what he loves, but I also see a great change in him since he’s been with his fiancee. What more can you ask for as a parent but see your kid happy?
Congratulations to your daughter and you for surviving those 30 years. Here’s to an excellent decade ahead!
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Congrats to your son and your growing family! Sounds like he’s doing amazing things with more of the same ahead. Lauren is just 400 miles away, but it’s about 397 too far. You’re right though—all I want is a happy kid. Today we FaceTimed, and she’s good!
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What a blessing! Thanking God for your miracle baby and the woman she has become!
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Yes! I’m so proud of her and super thankful!
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