Sometimes I feel that I write these posts as advice I wish I had given my kids. You see, I had my first baby at age nineteen and my second at barely twenty-two. Looking back, I was so young and dumb, and my mother’s guilt would tell you, “I wish I had parented better.”
Shoulda. Woulda. Coulda.
I don’t beat myself up over this anymore, but my former self was super hard on me. Now I let the past stay there, and I understand that all of my past lives have shaped me into my current self. I did the best I could at the time, I loved those babies hard, and I still love these adults fiercely.
I suppose all this draws me to the lyrics of Lynyrd Skynyrd’s 1973 “Simple Man.”
My mama told me when I was young Said, sit beside me my only son [baby girl, too] And listen closely to what I say And if you do this it'll help you some sunny day… Oh, take your time, don't live too fast Troubles will come and they will pass You'll find a woman [or a man] and you'll find love And don't forget that there is a someone up above [SO IMPORTANT!!!] And be a simple kind of [hu]man And be something you'll love and understand
Allow me to introduce the lovely Sierra Eagleson. I think she’s twenty-four. I feel her stripped down strength and believe you’ll love and understand.
For Remake Monday today, I think I’ll try to keep it simple and love and understand and remember that troubles will pass.