Introducing Me to Myself

Even at age almost 50, I’m still trying to understand myself. A few days ago, I clicked into Dr. Andrea Dinardo’s post “Saying No Is Not a One Size Fits All.” A college professor, published author, TEDx speaker, and retired psychologist, Dr. Dinardo dedicates her entire site to thriving under pressure, psychology workshops, and stress resilience. She hooked me with, “Do you have a difficult time saying no? While others in your life say no without a second thought.” Why, yes, Dr. D, as a matter of fact, I do.

She explains the difference between thinkers and feelers (I’m a feeler) and that thinkers have fewer issues saying no and that the safer we feel in a relationship, the easier it is to say no. From Dr. D.’s page, I clicked the hyperlink to a Myers Briggs Personality Profile site. Sometimes seeing and hearing people throw these letters around, I’m sure I’ve taken this test before, but I couldn’t have told you what any of it meant. The test explores introversion vs. extroversion, sensing vs. intuition, thinking vs. feeling, and judging vs. perceiving. Maybe I’m still trying to make up the D that I made in psychology during my freshman year of college. Studying some now explains much about me to me.

I believe I’m ISFP (Introverted, Sensing, Feeling, Perceiving), also known at the artist, the composer, and the adventurer. led me to an ISFP page with spot-on descriptions of my strengths and weaknesses. 5-10% of the population has this personality type. So there you go. I’m different than most and not completely proud of all my traits, but we’re all human, right? At least I see the potential for growth. As an ISFP…

  • I like to keep my options open and delay making decisions.
  • I’m kind and friendly, sensitive and quiet.
  • I need my alone time.
  • I’m peaceful and easy-going, caring and considerate, and tend to accept people as they are.
  • I dislike conflict.
  • I’m a doer rather than a dreamer.
  • I care more about personal concerns than objective, logical information.
  • I’m not good at expressing my feelings.
  • I’m in tune with the world around me, appreciative of nature, animals, and the arts.
  • I often develop “gut feelings” about situations.
  • I prefer spending time with a close group of family and friends.
  • I often defer to the needs or demands of others.
  • I’m not concerned with trying to convince others to share my point of view.
  • Teaching is a popular ISFP career.

Thanks so much, Dr. Dinardo! And dear readers, if you have a spare moment, click here to check out her site. I would love to be in her class, and I’m grateful to have the tools at my fingertips to learn from her anyway. By the way, do you know your Myers Briggs personality profile? Does knowing change anything for you?

33 thoughts on “Introducing Me to Myself

  1. Fascinating post. Having been a counselor I am familiar with a few different tests. For me nothing changes in seeing the content of the moment as much as the overall process. I can be a variety of responses at any given time and at this juncture I live the way that feels. I think that in my case I recognize there is no stock situation that a no will fit. The same situation may require a no or yes depending on a variety of factors. My response is always going to be contingent on the experience. No test has been devised that covers that.
    So, I have learned to listen to my heart. Not so much my head. I take care of me, always. If I’m not OK what good am I going to do anyone else?
    Long response. I love the post and think the tests do point to some of the process concerning content.
    Be well,

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  2. I also read Dr A D post and did the test twice totally honestly and of course for the craic and got two different results. I’m considering a thrice, but that there’s things to do, people to annoy without trying (just the way I am). Anyways, first one was ISFP and second attempt ENFJ so I think the third one is the most accurate and is an F (whatever that means).

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  3. Ah, Crystal! I love Myers- Briggs! I’ve got my whole family charted and many of my friends and coworkers:) it’s a fun pastime and helps us understand each other… I’m an INFP. Loved your post 🙂

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  4. I remember when I was in high school I took the Myers-Briggs test and of course I dont remember the results, lol! That was over 25 years ago. Wow, I’m getting up there in age. I feel like we’re constantly learning stuff about ourselves. I have no problem saying no unless it’s to my weaknesses, my nieces and nephews. I don’t like conflict but I stand up for myself. This was a great post! Thanks for sharing

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    1. I’m thinking I took it early in my teaching career (like 20 years ago), but this time it resonates with me. And the yes to a niece/nephew doesn’t count! No doubt you’re the best auntie!


  5. I adore and admire Dr. D! She’s the best. Strangely enough, my aunt is a huge MB-test giver/taker and she’d already done mine…not weird at all right? Anywho, after she announced what she thought I was I did a test and it turns out I’m ENFJ. I think it’s pretty accurate, but it hasn’t helped me one way or another, except to understand what my aunt sees 😉 lol

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